Three Cheers to Tina Fey’s “Bossypants” – the Epitome of the Domestic Square Peg!

If you are looking for a hilarious, wry, witty, and slightly not-so-P.C. summer read, I highly recommend Tina Fey’s Bossypants. If you can get over the disturbing cover image, you will be justly rewarded. And if you are a 40-something child of the eighties like me, it will hit home in just the right places.

Tina Fey is a smart and beautiful woman flourishing in a man’s world – despite herself. It only took two chapters for me to realize that Ms. Fey is the quintessential DSP. Now, I love Liz Lemon even more.

The third chapter, All Girls Must Be Everything, was where she realized that “there are an infinite number of things that can be ‘incorrect’ on a woman’s body” -or, so she thought. She even goes as far as to list potential “deficiencies” and ” expectations” that she felt bombarded with at an early age. In the end, she decided to “lead by example”. I took a personal inventory of all my healthy body parts for which I am grateful.” She goes on to list them and we can all relate to most of them.

I would not trade any of these features for anybody else’s. I wouldn’t   trade the small thin-lipped mouth that makes me resemble my nephew. I wouldn’t even trade the acne scar on my right cheek, because that recurring zit spent more time with me in college than any boy ever did.

Another favorite chapter, The Secrets of Mommy’s Beauty, has a plethora of DSP gems. My fave is #9 – “When It Comes to Fashion, Find What Works for You and Stick with It.” If that’s not the DSP mantra ‘find what fits for you’, then I don’t know what is.

Fey continues her DSP journey with I Don’t Care If You Like It, where she exudes advice for surviving workplace drama, dealing with jerks, and being the boss. She writes, “When you’re in charge, don’t hire the people who were jerks to you.” Her sage advice concludes with “Do your thing and don’t care if they like it.”

Ms. Fey tackles the hot button issue of breastfeeding in There’s a Drunk Midget in My House which about made me wet my pants. Her take on the formula vs. breastfeeding debate is classic. Her lesson learned: “When people say, “You really, really must” do something, it means you don’t really have to. No one ever says, “You really must deliver the baby during labor.” When it’s true, it doesn’t need to be said.

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In this chapter, we see that even Tina Fey struggles with the whole working mommy guilt syndrome. When her daughter brings home a book called My Working Mom with a cartoon of a witch on the cover, she just about loses her cool. Luckily for us, she figures out how to (somewhat) balance her work/life with a combination of avoidance and acceptance that works for her family. Later, she finds out matter-of-factly that her daughter thought the dreaded mommy witch debacle was a Halloween book!

I say you must find what works for you.

Does she write for DSP? Not yet, but maybe some day!

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One Response to Three Cheers to Tina Fey’s “Bossypants” – the Epitome of the Domestic Square Peg!

  1. Deanne says:

    Thanks Dixie, for this thorough heads-up on “Bossypants”. I’m downloading it to my Kindle Fire pronto!

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