Lately, I have witnessed behavior that is down right cruel. I actually saw a woman yelling at a cashier because he had put the woman’s items in paper bags instead of plastic. She asked the cashier if he had a hearing problem or if he was just stupid. I was blown away.
Why would a person think it was all right to speak to another human being that way?
My son recently showed me a text message he received from a boy questioning why he was friends with a child named Brian. My son replied that he liked Brian because he was smart and nice. The boy texted back that he hated Brian and that he bullied him every day at school, because he was a geek.
My son was upset and so was I. I asked him if I could respond and he gladly handed me the phone.
This is what I texted,
“I just wanted to let you know that you made a couple of big mistakes by sending my son these text messages. First, you chose to text a boy whose parents regularly check his phone and second, you put in writing that you bully Brian every day. Now I am pretty sure your parents and your principal would not be pleased to know this is going on. So you have a choice, stop bullying Brian immediately or I will be setting up a meeting with them to share your written confession.”
It took a day for him to reply and when he did he claimed he had been kidding about bullying Brian. I am happy to report Brian has not been bullied since.
We live in a day and age where people act really tough as long as they can send their hatred through e-mail, social networks, and/or text messages. Don’t people realize what they put in writing cannot be taken back, and if necessary, it can be used against them?
I try to teach my children to really think before they speak or type, especially if they are angry. I tell them to ask themselves if what they are about to say is going to hurt someone, because they won’t be able to take it back. It is all right for them to disagree with someone, but how they communicate their message makes all of the difference in the world.
I am truly fearful that we are starting to accept this bad behavior as normal and in some strange way, acceptable. Are we reluctant to stand up to these “mean people” for fear of being their next target? I would love to know if you are observing this kind of poor behavior too, and if so, what (if anything) are you doing to try and stop it?
I, for one, would really like to start seeing more bumper stickers that say, “Nice People Rock” instead of “Mean People Suck”. The world would definitely be a better place!
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